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Review of Stop When You See Red

Stop When You See Red (available 2005)

By Carol M. Welsh

Infinity Publishing,1094 New De Haven Street - Suite 100
West Conshohocken, PA 19428-2713

610-941-9999

ISBN: 0-74142234-4

Tradeback 277 pages @ $19.95

Want to know what can take you from calm to irritation in ballistic speed? Stop When You See Red will assist you in uncovering the burrows deep inside that have kept you from living the life you desire.

This much needed book is broken down into four sections. The author guides you through finding and identifying your hot buttons and how to interpret your behavior. This is an intimate look into relationship dynamics and how each one of us can determine the power of our reactions.

Ms. Welsh defines four perceptual styles as being Audio, Visual, Feeler, and Wholistics. She supplies the reader through a detailed self-appraisal and personal profile the opportunity to find where they stand among the primary Perceptions. After understanding the perceptual style, she continues with Limiting Tendencies. She identifies these as anger, indignation, frustration and resentment. Through understanding these limitations and accepting the fact that you can only change you – you can learn how to live a more fruitful and satisfying life. I love to “think out loud” and I found her section on Wholistics very enlightening. I have to say it gave me a moment of utter clarity.

This book is principally enlightening because the author bares her soul which is a marvelous motivator to the reader. By sharing her private life and explaining her transformation in her forties, she gives the book a feel of communicating directly with her. It takes guts to come clean in your own life and this is one reason the book is so effective. Along with her life experiences, she shares experiences from her workshops and qualitative studies. Of particular need is the understanding of children making this a must read for every parent. Her examination of how to be “an encouraging rather than discouraging parent” is excellent.

It is so true that nothing can possibly change in your life until you change and Ms. Welsh lays out the tools to succeed in a transformation to help you enjoy more radiant relationships.

This book will add a high-quality injection of positive power to any life. Ms. Welsh offers a healing brew dispensing necessary and helpful advice in a clear and easy to understand format giving everyone a potential to reshape their life.

Sherry Russell

Midwest Book Reviewer

Society of Authors and Writers Reviewer

Florida Writer’s Association Reviewer

Another Review at MyShelf.Com
© 2005 MyShelf.com
Stop When You See Red By Carol Welsh
Book Reviewer: Lynda E. Lukow

"It's possible to have a richly satisfying life within your present circumstances." Carol Welsh, author of Stop When You See Red

According to Carol Welsh, everyone is born with Empowering Tendencies, which lead us to take positive action and help us feel better about ourselves. We also have Limiting Tendencies, which cause us to react, often negatively, to others and events, and therefore leave us feeling tired or out-of-control.

How we perceive the world around us affects our responses. In Stop When You See Red, the author identifies and defines four perceptual styles: Audio, Visual, Feeler and Wholistic. A simple self-appraisal leads to great personal insight by helping readers identify their primary Perception, along with their current Empowering and Limiting Tendencies.

The author's comprehensive descriptions of each perception will help readers recognize others' primary perceptions, and thus enable them to improve relationships with adults. She also advises how to adapt teaching/disciplinary styles for children of each perceptual style.

Have you noticed certain people or situations press your hot buttons? The Shrinking Comfort Zone Profile will help readers identify which work, home and personal health stressors steal their security and control. Once you recognize them, if you're willing to alter your perception and react positively, you can enlarge your comfort zone. All you have to do is avoid the Brick Wall.

Sometimes the answers we seek are right in front of our noses, but we need someone to help us open our eyes. Carol Welsh's Stop When You See Red is like a cup of strong coffee. Readers who possess an open mind and determination will find this guide to personal growth insightful. Though the author details how to calculate scores, those who wish to receive a free interpretation can submit their scores to the author's website. Encourage your family, friends and coworkers to take the self-appraisal or sit back and observe their behavioral styles. You might be amazed at how quickly you can improve your relationships. I certainly was.

Comments from Readers

I loved this book and the paradigm that people perceive through their senses. I liked Carol Welsh's supportive tone and heartwarming anecdotes. As a scientist I liked the quantitative aspect of self-evaluation and the strive towards balance. Everything fits so well together. It really heightened my sense of perception. Julia Heinrich, PhD.

(Carols) book is designed as a handbook for people to use in their personal world of relationships. Used well, this material could enable people to solve relationship problems long before they escalate into serious, disruptive patterns. Ann Norwood -- Licensed Mental Health Counselor

Other books and workshops I've experienced on personality types cannot begin to compare with Carols book. It's extremely comprehensive yet easy to understand. I immediately started utilizing this information and my confidence soared. Wish I had read this 30 years ago. Barbara Thompson, MS, Author/Artist/Musician/Former Teacher.

"When You're Seeing Red, STOP!" gave me some wonderful insights in raising my teenage son. I have also found it helpful in establishing better working relationships with my co-workers and in adapting my working style to different situations. Ms. Welsh's personal stories made her book a delightful read and helped me to relate her advice to my own life. -- R.W.F. Health Educator

I keep this book by my bedside and refer to it almost every night. As a parent I have found it to be very helpful. I have recommended it to all of my friends. It has also helped me deal with the patients where I work, especially those that demand more attention. -- K.W. Optometric Assistant

This book is outstanding! My husband is reading it and says it's fascinating. He never reads books! I think every organization and person needs this book. -- P.C.F. Trainer and Minister

This book was like turning on a light! It gave me insight into dealing with customers that I never considered or was mentioned in the numerous sales books I've read or sales meetings/seminars I've attended. The book would make a valuable addition to any salesmanship library. -- D.J.O. Sales Representative

I loved your approach to helping people understand their character traits and humorous solutions to bringing about immediate changes in our lives with changing the way we look at each situation. I appreciate your newsletter and the insight and information you are sharing. Thank you so much. -- Jo-Anne Mulhall, Jewelry Designer, Women in the Know Conference.

I enjoyed the "labels" and real-life situations. Presentation style is fantastic!!! -- Nan Piper Kochanski, Brand Builder, Women in the Know Conference.

Will recommend this (workshop and book) to all organizations and the Chamber of Commerce. Will use this information to communicate and understand my clients better and handle family situations more comfortably. -- KW – Massage Therapist

Helps you deal with others during day-to-day situations without over reacting. Now that's a breath of fresh air! -- M.H. – Retired teacher

Excellent, smooth presentation – told lots of stories, involved audience, focused on how we can change our behaviors. -- W.B. – Y.M.C.A. employee

This workshop empowered me to deal with some of the problem areas of interpersonal relationships at home and in the workplace. I will recommend Carol to be a presenter at our state conference. -- D.C. – Director of Student Transportation Services

This seminar gave me some answers what nothing else has. Carol is well informed, entertaining, and "win-win" oriented. -- G. L. – Computer Programmer

I would recommend this for my fellow city workers. Perception is the key to dealing with people. This helps. -- M.Y. Office Manager

This course was an excellent way to help discover personalities and styles. I would recommend to others, especially those in executive levels of management. Thank you. -- M.H. City/County Housing Agency Executive.

I enjoyed the seminar very much. I have experienced many of the situations you discussed in my 30 years in county government. -- T.B. County Executive

Carol, you are such a positive force. I look forward to using the information you have given us in my everyday life. You were so on target as to who I am and how I perceive myself. -- I.R. County Probation Officer.

Great workshop – very informative and quite an eye opener into ourselves. I hope we can bring this workshop back to our county. -- M.O. Public Works Personnel Coordinator.

Good facilitator – put words and terms to thoughts I've had. Very self-evaluating. -- L.K. City Building Dept. – Plan Review Processor.

Carol, you bring out some interesting stories that help participants "connect" with your examples. Your presentation helped me to realize what I knew about myself but didn't want to admit. Now, as an "Audio" I must take steps to correct the problem. -- T.K. Special Education Teacher

I found the ideas and methods for reducing stress by improving relationships both useful and practical. -- M.S. Teacher K-5 Physical Education

I learned a lot about myself and my "Visual" reactions and how not to have my hot buttons pushed by Audio/Feeler/Wholistic students/children/spouse. -- B.E. Fifth-grade teacher

This was quite useful as it gives you an excellent perspective of how you are viewed and how you are being viewed based on each individual's personal perceptions. -- C.C. Elementary teacher

*Stop When You See Red* The essence of a strong relationship is to be open to the perceptions of others.
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		Midwest Book Review Review of Stop When You See Red Stop When You See Red (available 2005) By Carol M. Welsh Infinity Publishing,1094 New De Haven Street - Suite 100 West Conshohocken, PA 19428-2713 610-941-9999 ISBN: 0-74142234-4 Tradeback 277 pages @ $19.95 Want to know what can take you from calm to irritation in ballistic speed? Stop When You See Red will assist you in uncovering the burrows deep inside that have kept you from living the life you desire. This much needed book is broken down into four sections. The author guides you through finding and identifying your hot buttons and how to interpret your behavior. This is an intimate look into relationship dynamics and how each one of us can determine the power of our reactions. Ms. Welsh defines four perceptual styles as being Audio, Visual, Feeler, and Wholistics. She supplies the reader through a detailed self-appraisal and personal profile the opportunity to find where they stand among the primary Perceptions. After understanding the perceptual style, she continues with Limiting Tendencies. She identifies these as anger, indignation, frustration and resentment. Through understanding these limitations and accepting the fact that you can only change you – you can learn how to live a more fruitful and satisfying life. I love to “think out loud” and I found her section on Wholistics very enlightening. I have to say it gave me a moment of utter clarity. This book is principally enlightening because the author bares her soul which is a marvelous motivator to the reader. By sharing her private life and explaining her transformation in her forties, she gives the book a feel of communicating directly with her. It takes guts to come clean in your own life and this is one reason the book is so effective. Along with her life experiences, she shares experiences from her workshops and qualitative studies. Of particular need is the understanding of children making this a must read for every parent. Her examination of how to be “an encouraging rather than discouraging parent” is excellent. It is so true that nothing can possibly change in your life until you change and Ms. Welsh lays out the tools to succeed in a transformation to help you enjoy more radiant relationships. This book will add a high-quality injection of positive power to any life. Ms. Welsh offers a healing brew dispensing necessary and helpful advice in a clear and easy to understand format giving everyone a potential to reshape their life. Sherry Russell Midwest Book Reviewer Society of Authors and Writers Reviewer Florida Writer’s Association Reviewer Another Review at MyShelf.Com © 2005 MyShelf.com Stop When You See Red By Carol Welsh Book Reviewer: Lynda E. Lukow "It's possible to have a richly satisfying life within your present circumstances." Carol Welsh, author of Stop When You See Red According to Carol Welsh, everyone is born with Empowering Tendencies, which lead us to take positive action and help us feel better about ourselves. We also have Limiting Tendencies, which cause us to react, often negatively, to others and events, and therefore leave us feeling tired or out-of-control. How we perceive the world around us affects our responses. In Stop When You See Red, the author identifies and defines four perceptual styles: Audio, Visual, Feeler and Wholistic. A simple self-appraisal leads to great personal insight by helping readers identify their primary Perception, along with their current Empowering and Limiting Tendencies. The author's comprehensive descriptions of each perception will help readers recognize others' primary perceptions, and thus enable them to improve relationships with adults. She also advises how to adapt teaching/disciplinary styles for children of each perceptual style. Have you noticed certain people or situations press your hot buttons? The Shrinking Comfort Zone Profile will help readers identify which work, home and personal health stressors steal their security and control. Once you recognize them, if you're willing to alter your perception and react positively, you can enlarge your comfort zone. All you have to do is avoid the Brick Wall. Sometimes the answers we seek are right in front of our noses, but we need someone to help us open our eyes. Carol Welsh's Stop When You See Red is like a cup of strong coffee. Readers who possess an open mind and determination will find this guide to personal growth insightful. Though the author details how to calculate scores, those who wish to receive a free interpretation can submit their scores to the author's website. Encourage your family, friends and coworkers to take the self-appraisal or sit back and observe their behavioral styles. You might be amazed at how quickly you can improve your relationships. I certainly was. Comments from Readers I loved this book and the paradigm that people perceive through their senses. I liked Carol Welsh's supportive tone and heartwarming anecdotes. As a scientist I liked the quantitative aspect of self-evaluation and the strive towards balance. Everything fits so well together. It really heightened my sense of perception. Julia Heinrich, PhD. (Carols) book is designed as a handbook for people to use in their personal world of relationships. Used well, this material could enable people to solve relationship problems long before they escalate into serious, disruptive patterns. Ann Norwood -- Licensed Mental Health Counselor Other books and workshops I've experienced on personality types cannot begin to compare with Carols book. It's extremely comprehensive yet easy to understand. I immediately started utilizing this information and my confidence soared. Wish I had read this 30 years ago. Barbara Thompson, MS, Author/Artist/Musician/Former Teacher. "When You're Seeing Red, STOP!" gave me some wonderful insights in raising my teenage son. I have also found it helpful in establishing better working relationships with my co-workers and in adapting my working style to different situations. Ms. Welsh's personal stories made her book a delightful read and helped me to relate her advice to my own life. -- R.W.F. Health Educator I keep this book by my bedside and refer to it almost every night. As a parent I have found it to be very helpful. I have recommended it to all of my friends. It has also helped me deal with the patients where I work, especially those that demand more attention. -- K.W. Optometric Assistant This book is outstanding! My husband is reading it and says it's fascinating. He never reads books! I think every organization and person needs this book. -- P.C.F. Trainer and Minister This book was like turning on a light! It gave me insight into dealing with customers that I never considered or was mentioned in the numerous sales books I've read or sales meetings/seminars I've attended. The book would make a valuable addition to any salesmanship library. -- D.J.O. Sales Representative Comments from Workshop Participants Thank you for educating the Washington DC Toastmasters about your perceptual styles. The members of our district are still talking about the hints that you offered to them. You captured the main perceptions that cause communication disagreements. Nancy McCeney, DTM, Lt. Governor of Education & Training, District 36 2005 Conference Our attendees truly enjoyed getting to the heart of the differences between people that cause friction and learned a lot. Carol's seminar provided clear insights in to what makes us all tick and why - and the fact that we may all be difficult from time to time! Caroline Stanley, Red Jewel, Inc. Women in the Know Conference Committee Chair, 3/4/05 I loved your approach to helping people understand their character traits and humorous solutions to bringing about immediate changes in our lives with changing the way we look at each situation. I appreciate your newsletter and the insight and information you are sharing. Thank you so much. -- Jo-Anne Mulhall, Jewelry Designer, Women in the Know Conference. I enjoyed the "labels" and real-life situations. Presentation style is fantastic!!! -- Nan Piper Kochanski, Brand Builder, Women in the Know Conference. Excellent insight into the "enigma of the mind." -- Sumedha Anand, gemologist, buyer. Women in the Know Conference. Your ability to transcend a formal board meeting environment and create a congenial learning environment is to be commended. My board members enjoyed and profited from your interactive style. You are certainly a dynamic woman! -- Anna Di Bella, National President of the National League of American Women (Washington, DC) We thought your presentation was informative and very entertaining as well. People are tired after a full day of challenges at work; therefore, it is very important to catch and hold the audience attention, and that is exactly what you did at the American Society for Quality 11/9/04 dinner meeting. Thank you so much. -- Fred Gilliam, ASQ Program Chair Will recommend this (workshop and book) to all organizations and the Chamber of Commerce. Will use this information to communicate and understand my clients better and handle family situations more comfortably. -- KW – Massage Therapist Helps you deal with others during day-to-day situations without over reacting. Now that's a breath of fresh air! -- M.H. – Retired teacher Excellent, smooth presentation – told lots of stories, involved audience, focused on how we can change our behaviors. -- W.B. – Y.M.C.A. employee This workshop empowered me to deal with some of the problem areas of interpersonal relationships at home and in the workplace. I will recommend Carol to be a presenter at our state conference. -- D.C. – Director of Student Transportation Services This seminar gave me some answers what nothing else has. Carol is well informed, entertaining, and "win-win" oriented. -- G. L. – Computer Programmer I would recommend this for my fellow city workers. Perception is the key to dealing with people. This helps. -- M.Y. Office Manager This course was an excellent way to help discover personalities and styles. I would recommend to others, especially those in executive levels of management. Thank you. -- M.H. City/County Housing Agency Executive. I enjoyed the seminar very much. I have experienced many of the situations you discussed in my 30 years in county government. -- T.B. County Executive Carol, you are such a positive force. I look forward to using the information you have given us in my everyday life. You were so on target as to who I am and how I perceive myself. -- I.R. County Probation Officer. Great workshop – very informative and quite an eye opener into ourselves. I hope we can bring this workshop back to our county. -- M.O. Public Works Personnel Coordinator. Good facilitator – put words and terms to thoughts I've had. Very self-evaluating. -- L.K. City Building Dept. – Plan Review Processor. Carol, you bring out some interesting stories that help participants "connect" with your examples. Your presentation helped me to realize what I knew about myself but didn't want to admit. Now, as an "Audio" I must take steps to correct the problem. -- T.K. Special Education Teacher I found the ideas and methods for reducing stress by improving relationships both useful and practical. -- M.S. Teacher K-5 Physical Education I learned a lot about myself and my "Visual" reactions and how not to have my hot buttons pushed by Audio/Feeler/Wholistic students/children/spouse. -- B.E. Fifth-grade teacher This was quite useful as it gives you an excellent perspective of how you are viewed and how you are being viewed based on each individual's personal perceptions. -- C.C. Elementary teacher